Breathe
Just last March, Shakira congratulated her partner on his 600th birthday and praised him, saying that there was no one like him: "For me you are the best example of struggle, perseverance and sincerity for our children.
A month later, Shakira's trilogy of pain, disappointment, anger and public revenge against the father of her children and her partner of 12 years began.
In April, Shakira released the song I congratulate you with Rauw Alejandro and rumors about Piqué's infidelity grew. In June of the same year, they announced their separation.
For completing you I broke into pieces
I was warned, but I didn't pay attention
I realized that yours is false
It was the straw that broke the camel's back" (...)
I who put my hands in the fire for you
You treat me like one more of your whims...
Completing the partner and then breaking into pieces is a feeling we can identify with. Feeling that we are indebted to ourselves for depositing all our love in a partner with the ideal of completing him or her, is between narcissism, sacrifice and also a devaluation of that other who needed to be completed. We have been guilty of all of this at some time.
Putting your hands on fire for someone, believing them incapable of lying or betrayal, is the only way to consolidate a bond. Blind trust is the glue of love, but it is not infallible. Lying and betrayal are more common than we accept. We all lie, as professionals or as amateurs, but we all do it sometime. Realizing that we are no longer unique to someone hurts. What constitutes a betrayal in a couple is almost unquestioned: the ultimate betrayal is infidelity.
A few months later, in October, Shakira released together with Ozuna the song Monotonía. The lyrics seem an explanation of the breakup by accepting that she was also involved in the deterioration of love:
You doing your thing, I'm doing the same
Always looking for the limelight
And you forgot what we once were
It wasn't your fault, nor mine
It was the monotony's fault
I never said anything, but it hurt me
I knew this would happen
I was running for someone who wasn't even walking for me
This love is not dead, but it's delirious
Each one in his own, taken to the extreme, sharpens the distance. Also the protagonism of living as the most important thing, forgetting the link to give priority to the individual. That what was once gone is lost is also a human experience. All of us who have been in love know that what is felt at the beginning of love is never felt again, but the transition to the love of companionship, to the love of kindness, is achieved precisely by combating self-centeredness, putting aside selfishness. Monotony, boredom, taking the relationship for granted, she knew this would happen. Everyone knows it, but sometimes no one is able to stop abandonment, distance and neglect of the relationship. Shakira insists that she gave more. That she ran while Pique walked. Egocentrism or reality, we don't know. Being a woman, I believe that she gave more, and in the end the bargaining that always appears in a separation and that makes us think that love is not dead, but dying.
The last chapter of the duel is the frank and overflowing rage of a furious woman who seeks to evidence, point out, shame and vindicate her right to do so:
On January 11, Shakira released "Shakira: Bzrp music sessions, vol #53":
A she-wolf like me is not for guys like you,
Pa' tipos como tú, uh-uh-uh-uh-uh
You've outgrown me and that's why you're with one just like you, uh-uh-uh-uh-uh
She has a good person's name
She's clearly not like she sounds
She has a good person's name
She's clearly not like she sounds
You thought you hurt me and made me tougher
Women don't cry anymore, women bill
Shakira declares herself a furious wolf after discovering all the details of Piqué's infidelity, which have become our banal entertainment of the last few weeks. That Clara ate the yoghurts in the fridge at home while she was traveling is one of the anecdotes that have outraged every woman I know.
Shakira also proclaims herself superior to Piqué, bigger and better than him. She has to be rescued by stating that he has chosen someone inferior, equal to him.
The most controversial part of the song is the mentioning of the name of the other. Many men, especially and some suspicious women, are shocked to discover that sorority is not absolute, that it has cracks and that it is selective. The song served as a pretext for them to question feminine ideals of mutual support. Shakira is free to include whomever she wants in her song-catarsis, although I think the object of her scorn should be exclusively her ex, with whom she had a commitment of fidelity.
If Shakira's motivation is to make money, nobody cares. Over the course of three decades, she has composed lyrics that have always been very personal, talking about her loves and breakups, crying on stage. What has grown exponentially is the magnitude of the impact that the lives of celebrities have on our lives to trigger conversations about situations with which we identify.
Life is uncontrollable. What seem like great loves can also end. The more we idealize the people we love, the greater the risk of disappointment.
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