Breathe
By Renata Roa Moreno
I grew up in a home where there was little room for error. Not because it did not exist, but the rigidity marked by a super loving father who grew up in a very strict boarding school, led him to replicate consciously or unconsciously many of those hard almost militarized behaviors. To that, we must add that I am the youngest of the whole generation of cousins and siblings that evidently because of the difference in years, made me grow up faster and activate much more mature behaviors than those that corresponded to someone my age.
With those factors and other incredible variables, they made that combo lethal for my constant narrative: you have to be perfect and you can't go wrong. For obvious reasons, that never happened, but the big difference is that today I don't even care if it does. I have made peace with that concept that over the almost 20 years that I have accompanied many people in their personal brand building processes, I have noticed that it also lives in them. Some because of this desire to feel loved and with the belief that they will only be loved if they are perfect. Others because they associate mistakes with failure or simply because making mistakes is foolish and we don't want to be fools.
Each person will associate it with something different because of their history, but what is a reality is that when I decided to open a budget for mistakes, absolutely everything changed. To begin with, I redefined the association and emotional burden of making them. Today I know that if I do it is because I dared to do something different and as in everything, some things go well and others not so well, but at least I learned something along the way. If one pays to learn in universities and MBAs, why not value the cost that sometimes we have to invest to do it in the school of life?
The game changed for me when I saw that the error is only telling me: not this way or not now. It has nothing to do with my capabilities, my value as a human being to be loved and much less the result I can reach by generating a profit at the end of the encounter. We forget that no one is keeping score and much less that mistakes can also be the turning points towards a life much more honest with our essence and truth. They can be our best high-risk investments in our investment portfolio that only see long-term returns.
That is why today I would love to invite you to have a budget for the mistake. That is, assume that you will make it and with all the compassion and wisdom possible, seek to extract the meaning and lesson from the experience to realize that it was necessary to grow in every way. We need to develop a loving look and encourage the beginner's look that can lead us to see life with renewed, curious and much lighter eyes.
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