Breathe
By Marilú Acosta
My first Christmas bereavement was on December 19, 1977, when my grandmother died. The second was on December 25, 2010, when my cousin died and the most recent was on December 24, 2023. In all three cases my relationship with them during my lifetime was short and ad hoc. Brian Weiss (USA, 1944) a psychiatrist who has worked throughout his life through regressions and past lives writes: We have soul families rather than a soul mate, all the time we are being contacted and connected. Sometimes it is a matter of small moments that, however brief, can be life-changing. Think of those who have reminded you of your soul's path.
I was talking on the phone when I received a message from Vivian Bardavid's contact, I was silent and on the other end of the call they asked me what happened to you? It wasn't a silence like any other, a friend had just died! I answered. Well, but she's dead, there's nothing you can do about it. I was rebutted, who evidently does not have a good relationship with grief and who has just two months since she lost her father. No, but I'm going to his funeral, what are you going for, it's December 25th! I don't know, I just know I have to go. Okay, okay, tomorrow I'll take you shopping, a phrase that I understood as her way of comforting me, of cheering me up, of changing the subject and compensating for the emptiness of my heart with a new article.
