Breathe
By Laisha Willkins
There are people who decided to live life as victims; even their voice changes when they feel sorry for themselves; sometimes it seems that they even change their posture and their face, they adopt a personality of helplessness that causes pity. And the fact is that being a victim is a very attractive way of being, it relieves you of the responsibility of your present. Not really, it just seems like it, because when everyone has the control to make changes, except you, you are not taking charge of your life.
It is very comfortable to be the victim, because people have the need to help the helpless, probably more for the need of the giver than to help the other person. But the joke is that the attitude of the victim almost always hooks. It traps anyone who is distracted, and it is a way of life: whoever decides to be a victim to be solved or given, settles in a place where others seem to have the responsibility to get her out of there. However, they never get out because they do not take control of their lives, although they do take control of the lives of others.
The victim settles in complaint, without a proposal. The victim settles in orphanhood, in injustice, in the past or in incapacity, and stays there forever, unless he or she crosses a threshold of life. But this usually does not happen. He discovers victimhood and gives it flight since he was a child: if it is his parents' fault, if it is because of the childhood he had, if it is because he was not born in such conditions or with such opportunities. He always complains about everything and looks for reasons to be the victim.
I have an aunt who is always complaining, and when her life is quiet she looks for any excuse to be a victim. I remember a conversation we had the other day:
-Hello, how are you?
-Uff, sad, do you remember my friend, the one who lives in Spain?
-You mentioned her to me once. You haven't seen her for 25 years, did something happen to her?
-She has a cousin who has cancer and has just been evicted....
The warrior, unlike the victim, does not see obstacles in the way, but evidence of permanence of beliefs. And it is true, as you exercise your left arm, your limitations and inabilities become easier and easier. Acceptance of each antagonist or circumstance is understood as the growth of consciousness.
Whoever decides to be a warrior makes an effort, is hyper-aware 24/7, observes, points out and takes responsibility. It is a life decision that entails great acts of humility and fortitude to achieve the evolution that is well worth it.
And what are you?
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