Breathe
By Joanna Vega Biestro
There are topics that we prefer to avoid, issues that we do not want to talk about, even less so with our loved ones, even if they are essential.
Recently, after the death of Ernestina Sodi, sister of singer Thalia, rumors surfaced of a conflict between Thalia and her niece over the decision to pull the plug on her. Although this information has not been confirmed, it reminded me of a personal experience, one of those that you never forget. When the doctor attending my mother gathered my siblings and me together to ask us a difficult question, my stomach sank: "In case it is necessary during surgery, do you want us to resuscitate her?"
We were silent. From the expressions of my siblings, I knew they felt the same way I did. We never got around to discussing this issue with my mother, although she did mention on occasion that, if she ever became unable to care for herself, she would not want to continue living. Beyond that comment, we never formally addressed the issue.
Today I am thinking about my future and that of my daughter. I know that the decision to disconnect or not a loved one falls on the immediate family, and it is a huge responsibility, it generates doubts, fear and guilt. I have come to the conclusion that I have to put my decision in writing, because no one should have to bear the burden of making it for me.
We must realize that we alone must define what we want during this difficult time. If it is not possible to leave a legalized advance directive, at least make sure that your loved ones know your wishes. Talking about death is not easy, but it is necessary so that, when the time comes, those who love us can make a difficult decision with fewer doubts and with the assurance that they are complying with our will.
Let's talk about death, however uncomfortable it may be, because it might surprise us and, if we haven't left things in order, let them at least know what we would have wanted.
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