Breathe
By Edelmira Cardenas
How many adjectives have been given to a menopausal woman? "Hysterical", "guanga", "ruca" "vieja", "aguada", "depresiva", etc., these are NOT particularly positive. It would seem that once again, women are now facing a much more discriminatory ADULT MODE, plagued by prejudices, cultural norms, fears, taboos, imposed by a society that boasts of boasting about youth and sexual attractiveness. How to be a desirable and desirable woman in menopause? if she is considered irrational, depressed, unstable, unattractive and as someone sick. Oh Blessed ignorance! The same was said with the first menstruation, when the woman became pregnant, and now they do the same with menopause. How absurd!
Women have both positive and negative feelings, thoughts and opinions about menopause, yet no other phase of life offers women so many possibilities to understand and explore feminine power. During centuries of cultural negativity we were bombarded with contradictory information, where the process of the female body was distorted and degraded. The path to maturing and understanding the different stages of womanhood has been marred by a culture that misjudges old age. They sow fear in women to go through this stage, as if it were a life sentence. They decree that as soon as menopause passes, a woman's life declines, "dries up", "cracks", and we are destined to depression, abandonment, tiredness, no sex life, incontinence, and resign ourselves to senescence.
It is a fact that at this stage, women no longer use their energy to have children, their organism has been described as decadent: loss of muscle mass, low sexual appetite, vitality is withering, their breasts and sexual organs are "atrophying", it seems that tragedy and frustration are knocking at the door in the life of every woman in climacteric and perimenopause. In the face of misinformation and fear of aging, a marketing culture of "grooming" has arisen. The fear is sown in women of losing themselves in the qualifiers and signs that their bodies will lose attractiveness, sexual desire, sensitivity, or simply fall apart. Faced with the pressure to "maintain" or prolong youth, especially sexual youth, the offer in the market has skyrocketed to offer everything from vaginal rejuvenation, augmentation and/or reduction of the vaginal lips, genital whitening, augmentation or reduction of the mount of venus, injecting hyaluronic acid in the wall of the vagina "to pronounce the G-spot", etc, etc, etc.
Sexuality in menopause is a whole topic that requires an extra section(expect it soon). Reaching this stage with optimism and motivation will depend on our sexual expectations and experiences. Many women slow down sexually (not necessarily because of lack of desire, or hormonal situation), but because of the rhythm of life, the situation with their partner, the effects of the climacteric (depression, anxiety, insomnia, empty nest, insecurity, etc). Some of them have commented that their sexual desire has increased because there is no longer a risk of pregnancy, it is as if they had opened the amusement park. I have always said: "SEXUAL DESIRE, in reality, is the desire for life, tell me how you live, and I will tell you how you have SEX".
The capacity for sexual pleasure will always be present until the day you die. Recent studies show that after menopause healthy, positive, creative, and motivated women (whether or not there is a partner), do NOT experience a significant decrease in libido, much less in sexual satisfaction, have no decrease in sexual frequency or genital sensitivity, and continue to have no problem reaching orgasm. This means that their sexual satisfaction and functioning is determined more by their living situation and partner, their expectations, their attitude towards sexuality, vaginal dryness, low sexual self-esteem, their mental and physical health.
If the average life span is 80 years, then women will live longer being postmenopausal than "normal", so, women "renew or die". It is necessary to learn to be desirable and desirable (no one wants to share with a dead person). Therefore, I invite you to celebrate TODAY on World MENOPAUSE Day by working on being more receptive, leaving aside the rigidity with which we walk, betting on opening our eyes to new experiences, enriching our intelligence, experiencing the possibility of new sensations, as well as giving us the opportunity to maintain the capacity for astonishment. Once a woman understands that the true meaning of menopause is the next step of initiation into personal power, the continuity of her feminine body processes, reprogramming to attend to her adulthood, building definite purposes, as well as continuing her quest to feel well rich, then, she will be ready to grow old WANTING AND DESIRING with power, beauty, and strength.
As Paulo Coelho would say: "It is always necessary to know when a stage of life is over, if you insist on staying in it longer than necessary, you lose joy and the meaning of the rest. The important thing is to close circles and let go of the moments of life that are closing".
The opinions expressed are the responsibility of the authors and are absolutely independent of the position and editorial line of the company. Opinion 51.
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