How much is so much; that "little help" to be more beautiful

By Edelmira Cárdenas

In the digital era, social networks have become a space for self-expression and connection, but also a scenario where image and perception play a fundamental role. In the need to make a match, get a date or accommodate the tastes and preferences of those who observe us, the vast majority of people have resorted to a "little help". As visual platforms gain predominance, the use of filters on photos has become a common practice, especially among women seeking to attract potential partners in their erotic life. However, behind this need to "improve" the image is a web of social pressures, expectations and self-perception that deserves to be explored.

Contemporary visual culture is deeply influenced by standards of beauty that are, for the most part, unattainable. Images found on social networks often represent an ideal of perfection that does not reflect reality. In this context, filters become a tool that allows women to adapt to these standards by smoothing imperfections, enhancing lighting and creating a more stylized and attractive appearance. This practice, while it may seem superficial, is rooted in a search for acceptance and validation in a cultural environment that constantly evaluates and judges appearance.

The use of filters can also be linked to the intention of attracting potential sexual partners. In the world of online dating, where first impressions are crucial, images become a calling card. Women, by using filters, seek to maximize their attractiveness and, consequently, increase their chances of being noticed. However, this need to "help themselves" through image raises questions about authenticity and the pressure they feel to meet machismo expectations.

Behind the decision to use filters is a complex relationship with self-image, self-esteem and self-perception. Many women may feel that their value depends on how they are perceived by others, leading them to seek approval through appearance. This phenomenon is not only limited to the search for mates, but extends to interpersonal relationships in general. The need for external validation can perpetuate a cycle of insecurity, where feeling good about oneself becomes an arduous task and dependent on the opinion of others.

The ease of access to editing tools and filters in photography apps has made the temptation to "fix" images stronger than ever. While some women may be aware that filters do not represent their true appearance, the desire to fit an ideal can be overwhelming. The quest for visual perfection can become a form of self-defense in a world where judgment and criticism are imminent. In the end, the edited image can offer a momentary sense of control and acceptance, albeit at the cost of authenticity.

However, the use of filters can also have negative consequences. By creating an idealized image, there is a risk that online interactions are based on unrealistic expectations. This can lead to disappointment when dates do materialize, as the person behind the filtered image may not match the expectations generated. In addition, this cycle can contribute to the perpetuation of superficiality in relationships, where appearance becomes more important than genuine emotional connection.

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