Breathe
By Areli Paz
Between now and the end of January, it is always a good time to wish a happy new year. January is the month that confronts us with the truth of our life, actions, attitudes, expenses and plans, the January slope is not only financial, but also emotional.
Many people say to themselves: "now we will exercise, now we will lose weight, now we will save money, now we will keep our promises, now we will leave the toxic people around us, now we will be more patient and less angry. Now I will travel, now I will sit down to write my own things, now I will renovate my house" and they or we make a list of resolutions that have a waiting mailbox or a tick box as in whatsapp.
The most optimistic say that after February 2 they plan to go on a diet.
The most daring say that they do not expect anything, that life will settle in and they will see.
The more cynical ones believe that there is nothing to change, that they go about the place with the most correct attitude.
The more romantic ones believe that by changing their look or clothes they will be different.
The phrase "new year, new life" is a repeated and empty lie. It's not just me, it's Arthur C. Brooks, a Harvard professor who has studied happiness in concept and practice. His analysis reveals that the universal desire for change year after year, remains in purpose just because the approaches are unrealistic and focus on the environment and not on the real needs, options and limitations of each human being.
Brooks argues that seeking happiness is a mistake, and that happiness must be built on a daily basis.
Life does not magically change with the arrival of a new year. But yes, it encourages us to believe that we can start from scratch in those unfinished plans, in those self-promises that we make believing that life changes just by thinking about it. Reality is very different, it is usually hard, difficult and confronts us with what we are and what we have done 365 days before, or a thousand days ago.
A great friend of mine taught me that it was neither good nor healthy to have resolutions, that it would always be better to set goals, one, two or ten, but those that were achievable, to trace a path and look for options to achieve them.
That it was valid not to have any at the beginning of the year and to define the new ones always with the goal of achieving them, whatever the date.
Whether you comply or not, no one cares.
The only person who is good for that is you. How many times do you fail? Many, hundreds or thousands of times, that's why goals have more power than intention. Good wishes sound nice, but they end up in the trash because there is no path that leads to them.
Outside the world is fierce, so you have to have a tough skin and clear thoughts to achieve your goals.
It is very easy to look good with others, just say yes to everything, lend yourself to their mental and emotional games, don't give true opinions, be servile and applaud mistakes.
The difficult thing is to be you, to respect yourself in your opinion and emotions, to tell you the truth no matter how hard it may seem, the difficult thing is to erase your bad thoughts and build better ones every day. The difficult thing is to take care of yourself, to keep your word and honor it, the difficult thing is to look at yourself in the mirror and like yourself. The hard thing is to multiply money and know how to take care of it, the hard thing is to be patient, cautious and responsible.
The hard part is taking responsibility, what you say or do.
That is what is important and that is why it is hard to achieve the objectives, because to reach them you will have to find the balance, not lose control and make such an effort that one day you will know that it was all worth it.
Anybody has purposes and you, if you have reached this text, you know you don't want to be anybody. You want to be you, a memorable one, capable of transforming your environment.
Thank yourself daily, congratulate yourself and honor your daily success, the surprise will be that you are closer to your goals.
Honor the failures, therein lies the experience of what you don't want.
Year after year there are people who leave your life, well, those were the ones who finally did not know how to respect you and take care of you with all the differences. That because of their ego they wanted to manipulate you or make you believe guilty of something that is not real.
The important thing is the people who stay, to whom you owe time and space.
Without forgetting that you are your priority and that will undoubtedly be one of my main objectives in 2025. It's not selfishness, it's care.
Don't make lists, but use a paper agenda with times, plan and days of work for that objective. Writing helps mental programming.
Don't tell them during the process, people don't care. In silence you build yourself better.
Every time you celebrate yourself, everyone decides how.
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