Breathe
By Areli Paz
Tip: nobody asks for them, but then you have to let them go, you learn something.
Learning: Everything is, everything adds up, everything is useful, everything is saved and useful.
Self-esteem: Embrace and daily recognition of who we are and what we do.
From a distance I look back at my childhood and I can recognize all the beautiful, bright, fun and exciting things, and also that I earned a good scolding or a slap on the wrist for being rebellious.
It was a mini chaos, just like today, but smaller.
I don't have daughters, but I do have nieces, cousins and daughters of my friends who surprise me with their maturity, ideas and different ways of deciphering life.
Sometimes I unwittingly find myself "advising" them, something that no one asks, wants or desires, but my age and experience make me believe that it is valid to do so.
Today more than ever, girls should have all the information about what life is all about. It is not about being a spoiler of their own stories where they will be the protagonists.
But I do believe that they should be given a "trailer", a list of circumstances and decisions that they will have to make in life.
We must let them be children, without losing sight of the fact that they are small, but not stupid, and that is why in these times it is worthwhile to explain to them what they can and cannot do.
Today is a good time to make a stop and tell our girls, whether they are daughters, sisters, nieces, granddaughters or acquaintances of our environment that every day they should strengthen their self-esteem, depending on their age we must allow them to speak, we must let them tell us their perception of their world, we must listen to every sentence and help them to build a critical and assertive thinking. These things can be inculcated from a very young age.
They must be told that their bodies are not to be touched by someone else, that they must tell everything that bothers them and that no one should mistreat them.
We must teach them to be companions, to help those next to them, to respect them, to add to them. We must encourage good habits in which competing is healthy, but not stepping on each other's toes.
Safe spaces, loving phrases and warning phrases should be encouraged.
Let them build codes and safety nets, let them play with what they decide and dream of what they want. We must tell them, but we must also practice it together with them.
Girls are born with disadvantages that humanity has bestowed upon us in a man's world.
That is why they should be encouraged to feel safe, loved and capable of building solid relationships.
We have to tell them that crying is okay and that it does not make them weaker, we have to tell them that in the classroom, at the table and in the family they have a special place, not a fantasy one, but one in which they must overcome.
You have to tell them that they are all beautiful and that you don't talk about other people's bodies.
We have to tell them that fairy tales are nice, but they are not real. We must teach them to be self-sufficient, we must encourage them to save and to plan how to use their money from an early age.
You have to teach them to get along with food, that you don't fight with your emotions and that the color pink is optional .
You have to tell them that you can love another girl and it's not bad.
We must teach them that it is okay to get angry, that it is healthy and that it helps them to understand the world and those around them.
You have to tell them that nobody beats them. You have to read them the laws.
That hormones will play against them and that they are not special, just human, real, capable and happy.
I don't give advice, but I'm sure that there are those who do value the experience.
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